“When we hold secrets [or pretend], we create shame. And being ashamed is like a veil that covers your entire life. Let go of the secret and release the shame.” Be free my friends. 03 October 2012 was my day. xx K
For me, the week has been long, the people have been tiring and the days have been draining. However, you’ve got to get up and try again. This is life. The daily small, somewhat insignificant, moments make up the day and make up your life. So enjoy it, live hard, try hard, go all the way in on this life thing. YOLO may be overdone but seriously, you do only ever live once. Go forth…at least give it a try. K. xx.
“People are so obsessed with becoming stars because they can’t see the light they already have emanating from themselves.” Powerful stuff!
I’m moving to San Francisco in October for 6 months. I am beyond excited. New continent, new cultures, new experiences, new people, new food and new fun!
“Then all at once, it gets hard to take
It gets hard to fake what I won’t be.
‘Cause one of these days you’ll be born and raised
And it all comes on without warning.”
Whoop! 30 whole days have come and gone – I did it! You know, this seems like it’s just about blogging but it’s more than that…so completely more than that. I was at a point where I was constantly tired and any creative venture I thought I would tried always fell flat because I was so worn out. I dedicated myself to this 30 day blogging challenge to wean myself from overworking, to prove to myself that I still had it and to reconnect with my creative energy space. That’s what this whole 30 day experiment was about – I know that again now.
I think I have been more that successful – I have a bit more clarity, I have set boundaries about how much work I will do, I have re-engaged with songwriting (which I love above a whole bunch of other things) and decided on come key focus areas for my future. Beyond excited! I can literally do anything I set my mind to!
So now that all of this is said and done, then what? Well, I have decided to continue blogging (maybe not everyday but frequently) but I am changing the focus of the blog from just about my life happenings to three things: 1. emerging songwriters that write songs that connect to the human condition (this was the initial vision) 2. musical discoveries that stop me in my tracks and 3. more stuff about my life journey (what’s a blog without a personal touch).
“Remain calm. Be kind. In the “heat of the battle”—whether military or corporate—kindness, like calmness, reassures followers and holds their confidence. Kindness connects you with other human beings in a bond of mutual respect. If you care for your followers and show them kindness, they will recognize and care for you”
- Colin Powell (13 Rules)
I had an experience at work today that was less than desirable – there was a miscommunication between myself and another senior party. It was quite a bitterness-inducing moment but I stuck to my position of always being calm and beyond collected. I now realize that it is so important to have open channels of communication in every relationship – work, friendship, romantic – otherwise that relationship is doomed to failure. Another important Colin rule is to make sure that you show people that you value them – it is a basic human need – to let them know that you really “see” them and that their presence on this planet means something to you. A bit of a deep post, but yeah, that was today.
The rest of the work year will be beyond interesting. Thank goodness for Colin Powell and his 13 Rules to leadership. They will come in handy. Peace and Love, K.
that most brutal of teachers. But you
learn. My God do you
- C S Lewis
Above is one of my most favourite quotes. I’ve been reflecting a lot lately about my life and the person I’ve become in order for me to map out some of my future plans (as an aside, the plane are coming along quite nicely) and one thing I have definitely seen is that that life/God/the universe gives you signs or whispers (as Mama Winfrey would say) to let you know which way to go – if you do not follow these signs of truth, you end up in situations that are less desirable. Those seemingly “bad” experiences are merely there for you to learn the lesson that you should always stay true to yourself – if you fail to learn, the lesson keeps coming back, each time ever more vicious, in order for you to get it – your full potential can only be unleashed if you decide to be who you really are, at all costs! I have had my moments to learn. “My God, did I learn“!
Has your day ever been hijacked? That happened to me today. I woke up with the intention of having a great fun-filled day of songwriting, wine and chilling with friends. As soon as I stepped downstairs, my mother told me what her plan for my day was…imagine that! So, instead of all the joyful stuff I had planned, I resigned to furniture shopping, decorating an apartment my parents bought and being incredibly cold as I was subjected to all terrible weather in between all of these activities. So fun *eye roll*.
As Whitney would sing, it’s not right but it’s okay – bless her soul. At the end of it all though, it’s really okay. There is a bright side…I got a chance to spend time with my family throughout the day and now we’re sitting in the living room having some amazing South African wine (Kevin Arnold – Shiraz and Kanonkop Kadette). I guess it all works out in the end right?
In my family, I’m the outlier. The weird one with the weird tastes and the weird fashions. Not that I’m crazy or something, I’ve just been a little out of sync with everyone else. As I’ve grown older I’ve become to really love this about myself. I can now see very clearly that being a little different is much more interesting that going with what everyone else is doing.
This has also filtered into my work life where people think I’m a little odd, lol. I’ve 90% decided on what I will do next year and every time I tell people at work what my plans/thoughts are, the common reaction is that they can’t understand why I would do something that is not on the safe and beaten track. My answer is always: “what’s the worst that could happen? – I could hate it and just do something else”. I am young, smart and ready. So yes, I will take the long road, the lesser known road and see what this world has to offer me. Here’s to the brave ones.
“I could never follow…
I’ve been a long time gone now
Maybe someday, someday I’m gonna settle down
But I’ve always found my way somehow
By taking the long way
…taking the long way around”